Wedding Vows
By Julia Tweed Planning your wedding requires you to make a multitude of decisions, but none may be as important as the words you choose to exchange as your wedding vows. A vow is by definition a solemn promise and, therefore, should not be taken lightly. These words seal your commitment to each other. Many couples wish to write their own vows, as they believe that their own words will be more meaningful than the traditional vows. Before you start drafting your vows, you need to talk with your officiant. Your faith or denomination may have requirements or your officiant may have specific words that you cannot deviate from. Once you have received the go ahead to write your own vows, the pressure is on to come up with just the right words to communicate your feelings toward each other. Whatever you do, don’t wait until the very last minute to write your vows. That will only create more stress and you really need to have the officiant review them, and approve them before the wedding ceremony. Writing your vows may be easier if you break down the traditional vows and analyse what it is that the vows are conveying. The traditional vows contain a statement of affection; you promise to "love and cherish" each other. You promise your faithfulness with the wording "forsaking all others". You vow to love unconditionally with the wording "for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health". Lastly, you are saying that it will be a permanent relationship with the words "as long as we both shall live". It may make the writing of vows much easier if you take the four base promises of affection, faithfulness, unconditional and permanence, think about what those promises mean to you, then convey your feelings in your own words. Another way to begin your process of writing your vows would be to take a piece of paper and answer these questions: Why do you love your fiance? What about them inspires you? What are your dreams for the future? What makes the two of you unique? What difficult problems or life trials have you been through and how did you work them out? Answering these questions may help to identify the special qualities and uniqueness of your relationship. As you write your vows, keep in mind that you are writing them for and about your fiance, be sincere. This isn’t a speech you are giving to the guests at your wedding. After you have finished writing your vows and they have been approved by your wedding officiant, practice reciting them. You want to be comfortable with the wording and you don’t want to stumble over any of the words. The most important thing is that when you look into the eyes of your soon to be husband or wife, you want them to know that the words you recite as your wedding vows are coming from your heart. This article was written by Julia Tweed. I am also the publisher of an ebook entitled “Getting Ready To Say “I Do”. This ebook is a step by step guide for planning your wedding. It starts with the magical proposal and ends with your life together after the honeymoon. For additional information regarding wedding vows, check out my website at: http://www.aceweddingplanner.com/index_005.htm Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Julia_Tweed http://EzineArticles.com/?Wedding-Vows&id=467529 used car financing bad credit list of lenders cash loan indiana cash america car title loans online car loan application
